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Welcome to the Pastoral Counseling Page!

Valy Vaduva is Board Certified Pastoral Counselor (BCPC) and Master Mental Health Coach (BCMMHC) 

For any question or to set up a meeting in person or online do not hesitate to reach out to me at valyvaduva@gmail.com

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Pastoral Counseling vs. General Counseling vs. Life Coaching

Pastoral Counseling

Pastoral Counseling

Pastoral Counseling

Pastoral counseling integrates spirituality and religious beliefs into the therapeutic process.


Ideal for pastors, deacons, ministry leaders, and others who desire to be heard from the faith-perspective.

General Counseling

Pastoral Counseling

Pastoral Counseling

General counseling focuses on psychological and behavioral aspects without necessarily incorporating religious or spiritual elements 

Life Coaching

Pastoral Counseling

Life Coaching

Life coaching is a future-oriented process focused on helping individuals achieve specific goals and personal growth, with or without incorporating religious or spiritual elements 

Focus

Focus

Life Coaching

Pastoral counseling Combines psychological principles with theological understanding and spiritual perspectives.


Incorporate prayer, scripture, or other faith-based practices alongside traditional therapeutic techniques like cognitive behavioral therapy, alongside other methods. 

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Focus

Focus

 Addresses mental health and well-being using only evidence-based psychological theories and techniques.  


 Employs cognitive behavioral therapy, psychodynamic therapy, or other established methods to help clients manage symptoms and improve functioning.  

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Focus

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 Life coaching assist clients identify their aspirations, develop strategies, and take concrete steps toward achieving their goals.  


 As an example, a life coach might help a client develop a plan to improve their career, manage their finances, or enhance their relationships.  

Pastoral Counseling

Spiritual Identity

A Bride without Blemish

Sanctity of Marriage

Discipleship and Mentorship

Motto:

“See how great a love the Father has bestowed on us, that we would be called children of God; and such we are. For this reason the world does not know us, because it did not know Him. Beloved, now we are children of God, and it has not appeared as yet what we will be. We know that when He appears, we will be like Him, because we will see Him just as He is.” (1 John 3:1-2)


You have forgotten who you are!


In 1994, Disney released an animated movie called The Lion King. My wife and I took our children to watch the movie. The story revolves around Simba, a lion cub and heir to the throne. Simba was tricked into thinking he killed his father. As a result of the tragedy in his life Simba abandons his identity as the future King and runs far away. 

A wise monkey, Rafiki, in a sense offered Pastoral Counseling, to Simba, now an adult lion, to face his past, no matter how painful is it. He told Simba, “Oh yes, the past can hurt. But from the way I see it, you can either run from it, or... learn from it.” This is such powerful remark in any Life Coaching sessions! A radical change takes place in Simba’s heart after a mysterious conversation with his father. The dialogue between father and son was an absolute game changer for Simba. This is what happens during Discipleship and Mentorship! His father, Mufasa, told his son, “Simba, you have forgotten me.” Simba tried to defend himself, “No! How could I?” Then his father told his son these heart penetrating words: “You have forgotten who you are, and so forgotten me. Look inside yourself, Simba. You are more than what you have become.”


More often than not, we, as Christians do not know our true identity. That is why we need  Pastoral Counseling  Life Coaching, and  Discipleship and Mentorship! We run away forgetting our calling and destiny. As Simba was challenged to face his past in spite of the hurt, we too have to look inside and rediscover our identity.


To read the entire Teaching Letter download the file:

YOUR NEW IDENTITY


Better yet get these books

Sanctity of Marriage

A Bride without Blemish

Sanctity of Marriage

Pastoral Counseling

Motto:

“This mystery is great; but I am speaking with reference to Christ and the church.”
(Ephesians 5:32) - Apostle Paul 


Introduction:


Why people get married? Socrates said, “Stay single, but if you must get married, by all means marry. If you have a happy marriage you will be happy. If you have an unhappy marriage, you will become a philosopher.” 


Seriously! Why people get married?  In this Teaching Blog, I would like to share a few things I have on my heart from the Holy Scriptures regarding “The Meaning of Marriage” and “The Purpose of Marriage.” 


Note: I believe with all my heart that all married couples could benefit from a few solid Pastoral Counseling, Life Coaching, and Discipleship and Mentorship sessions!


  

1. Marriage is a Gift and a Mystery.

Marriage… Whose idea was it? Where did the concept of marriage and family come from? Who designed it? I hope you agree with me that it was God’s idea. If we look into the first book of the Bible – Genesis, we read that after all the mighty acts of creation God Himself declared that it “was good,” even “very good!” The light and the earth were good, the sun, the moon, and the stars were good, the vegetation was good, all the creatures swimming in the waters, flying in the sky, and living on earth were good. Everything that was created by God “was very good!” (Gen. 1:31). Then, all of a sudden God declared something else: “It is not good”. In verse 18 from Genesis chapter 2 we read: “Then the LORD God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone; I will make him a helper suitable for him” You see! God Himself came up with the idea of relationship and companionship. Of course! “God is LOVE” (1 John 4:8). 


To read the entire Teaching Letter download the file:

THE MEANING OF MARRIAGE

 

Better yet get these books

A Bride without Blemish

A Bride without Blemish

A Bride without Blemish

Motto:

“Listen, O daughter, give attention and incline your ear: Forget your people and your father's house; Then the King will desire your beauty. Because He is your Lord, bow down to Him” (Psalm 45:10-11)


Introduction:


Some time ago I had my mornings devotions inspired from the Book of Genesis. I asked God to bless me with a fresh rhema from His Word, and He did. One morning I was overwhelmed by God’s Word regarding the coming of the Lord for His Bride. My heart was leaping with JOY! The Groom, the Lord of Lords, is coming SOON for His Beautiful Bride (See Gen. 24:65, Rev. 22:7). Are you READY?


Let me share some of the details I got that particular morning as I was spending time in the Scriptures.

We all are familiar with the beautiful story of Isaac and Rebekah from Genesis 24. To me this story is a prophetic one. In my opinion, beyond the exegesis of this text, there is a message for the Church of our times.


May be you and I need to refresh our memory on some of these concepts. In all honesty we all need, from time to time, Discipleship and Mentorship, Life Coaching, and Pastoral Counseling so we spiritually tunned our hearts.


When I read Gen. 24:65, “Who is that man walking in the field to meet us?” my eyes become watery and my heart leaps with joy. Then my mind traveled over all 66 books of the Bible to the last chapter of Revelation: “And behold, I am coming quickly. Blessed is he who heeds the words of the prophecy of this book” (Rev. 22:7).


Church, listen up! Our Groom is ready to come. The question is: Are we READY? The ‘ball’, so to speak, is in the court of the Church. We are the ones who, according to 2 Peter 3:12, are “hastening the coming of the day of God.” 


To read the entire Teaching Letter download the file:

A BRIDE without BLEMISH


Better yet get these books

YOUR NEW IDENTITY (pdf)

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THE MEANING OF MARRIAGE (pdf)

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A BRIDE without BLEMISH (pdf)

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Dealing with the Flesh

Flesh Patterns and Coping Mechanisms

Flesh Patterns and Coping Mechanisms

Flesh Patterns and Coping Mechanisms

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 My book, "The Journey of Transformation," is available on Amazon.  

https://amzn.to/3nB4aR7.


In this book I have dedicated an entire chapter titled:  Sarx Blocks Spiritual Metamorphosis. In my opinion every Christian should have a deep and accurate knowledge about the flesh (Gr. sarx.) So, it would be very beneficial to get this book just to read/study Chapter 6: Sarx Blocks Spiritual Metamorphosis. You will tank me later.


What is "flesh"

 

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Flesh Patterns Self-Assessment Tool

Flesh Patterns and Coping Mechanisms

Flesh Patterns and Coping Mechanisms

  

Read each statement carefully. Check all the words or phrases that apply to you.

1. When I am under pressure to cope when things aren’t going right or going my way, I tend to become self-absorbed (self-consumed) by:

  

· becoming   overly introspective

· feeling   sorry for myself

· engaging   in self-pity 

· getting   depressed by stuffing my anger and frustrations

· beating   up on myself (hating myself)

· focusing   on my suffering and trials to get attention and sympathy

 · playing   the role of a victim/martyr


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Praying Scripture

11.1. IN CASE OF EMERGENCY CALL 911 - REV 19 NOV 2025 (pdf)

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