Life Coaching

What is it?

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The International Coach Federation (ICF)—the leading global coaching organization and professional association for coaches—defines coaching as “partnering with clients in a thought-provoking and creative process that inspires them to maximize their personal and professional potential.” 

Furthermore, coaching is an: “ongoing relationship between the professional coach and the client, which focuses on the client taking action toward the realization of their vision, goals or desires. Coaching uses a process of inquiry and personal discovery to build the client’s level of awareness and responsibility and provides the client with structure, support and feedback.”

  

Based on the research done by The American Society of Training and Development (ASTD) the probability of reaching a goal increases by 95% if people have specific appointments with an accountability partner or a life coach.

Let me ask you something:

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Perhaps you are a leader, a missionary, or a pastor who is experiencing burn out and dissatisfaction with life. 


Could it be that you are so busy doing things on the outside but without any real fulfillment on the inside?


Maybe you are an executive with a successful career, or a respected business professional, but for some reasons, you feel empty and without purpose.


Let me ask you the following:


(1) Is your heart troubled and without rest?

(2) Do you feel that there is more to life than money and success?

(3) Are you feeling confused, stuck, disillusioned with life, and upset with yourself?

(3) Do you even feel disappointed with God?

My promise to you!

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I am not here to ‘fix’ anyone, that is God’s job. But I can promise you these: 


(1) I promise that whatever we discuss will be buried before God.


(2) I promise to be there for you and to help you navigate toward a more engaged and fulfilling future.


(3) I promise to pray with you and for you, to seek God’s will for your life, to assist you in establishing life goals and to keep you accountable in the process of reaching them.


(4) I promise to be a missionary of hope, a discerner of truth, a vessel used by God, a spiritual advisor, a challenger for your vision.


(5) I promise to care for you and to love you with God’s love.

How to set Up Spiritual Goals

Setting up Spiritual Goals for 2019

  

Completing this SPIRITUAL SURVEY will help you a lot.


Motto:

But speaking the truth in love, we are to grow up in all aspects into Him who is the head, even Christ.

—Ephesians 4:15


At the start of the New Year most people set up goals—New Year Resolutions for the year ahead of them. This practice is not bad. The problem is that in less than a couple of months people slip into the business of life and forget altogether about those resolutions. According to U.S. News, approximately 80% of resolutions fail by the second week of February.


If you are considering setting up spiritual goals for 2019 I believe that I can help you in that process. Not only that but over the years I designed strategies to keep you on course so you will indeed reach those goals.


Please consider the following steps:


(1) Carefully and prayerfully complete the provided Spiritual Survey 


(2) Set up a meeting to go over your goals and assign the right priorities 


(3) Establish regular follow up meetings to track your progress.


With LOVE in Christ’s Service,


Valy Vaduva


Life Coach/Author/Mentor


P.S.: Thank you for your continuous prayers and financial support! “The one who is taught the word is to share all good things with the one who teaches him.” (Gal. 6:6). If you are looking for personal & personalized one-on-one spiritual life coaching sessions, contact us immediately.

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Integration of Spiritual Growth and Emotional Health

Illumination is Necessary

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Motto:

Come to Me, all who are weary and heavy-laden, and I will give you rest. Take My yoke upon you and learn from Me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and YOU WILL FIND REST FOR YOUR SOULS. For My yoke is easy and My burden is light.” (Matthew 11:28-30) –Jesus Christ

Life is lived forward but only understood backwards.” -Soren Kierkegaard

Lord, let me know myself; let me know You.” – St. Augustine

It's impossible to be spiritually mature, while remaining emotionally immature.” 

–Peter Scazzero

He Himself took our infirmities and carried away our diseases.” 

–Gospel of Matthew 8:17b


 Introduction:

  

Emotional pain is a reality of life. More often than not we don’t realize the extent of our hurt so we don’t pursue healing. The problem is not that we lack wisdom but rather that we lack objectivity. As a result, we go through life covering our pain using various methods:


  • Party life in college to cover up feeling lonely
  • Success in business to cover up low self esteem
  • Keeping the house and children in order to cover up a distant relationship with a spouse
  • Ultra-involved in ministry and/or church success to cover up for not ‘feeling’ the unconditional love of God.

  

Why do so many people lack objectivity? Why can’t we see the reality for what it is?

Here are some possible answers:


  • We consider it normal to feel loneliness, hurt, and anger,
  • We want to be ‘good’ Christians. We explain it away: “Good Christians do not feel bad.”
  • We learned this lifestyle from childhood. 

We all wanted our parents to be loving and supportive when we were growing up but often times they were not. As result of this and many other experiences, we developed defense mechanisms to block and cope with pain, and pursued other ways to gain significance.

  

However, this is not the proper way to live life. It leads to:


  • Suppressing our emotions
  • Placing our identity in the extent of our success
  • Attacking people who hurt us
  • Withdrawing and becoming passive
  • Punishing ourselves when we fail
  • Doing and saying all sorts of things to be accepted
  • Helping others to gain their affirmation

The good news is that with the guidance of the Holy Spirit and encouragement from loving mature Christians we can get to the bottom of all these issues that rob us of experiencing the abundant life Jesus promises in John 10:10b.


Note: To read the entire Teaching Letter download the file:

  

Illumination is Necessary

Emotions and Spiritual Growth

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Motto:

“Examine me, O LORD, and try me; Test my mind and my heart.” –Kind David (Psalm 26:2)

“Watch over your heart with all diligence, for from it flow the springs of life” –King Solomon (Proverbs 4:23)

“YOU SHALL LOVE THE LORD YOUR GOD WITH ALL YOUR HEART, AND WITH ALL YOUR SOUL, AND WITH ALL YOUR MIND” –Jesus Christ (Matthew 22:37)


Introduction:


“How are you?” This is a question we hear or ask more often than any other questions. When we are asked this question, more often than not, we don’t pause and think about it; we just answer short canned answers, like: “Good!” “Fine!” “All right!” “Pretty good!” “Quite well!” The reality is that people don’t have time for deeper conversations. Therefore many settle for shallow relationships with other human beings and with God. But, if we would really take the time and think deeper about how we really are, would our answer be different? Ponder upon: What are we thinking about? How we are really feeling? What is the true state of our emotional life? So, let me ask you again: “How are you?” How would you answer now?

Take a few moments and meditate upon your life’s experiences. Dig a little deeper, go further into the past. How about the time when your father scolded you for no apparent reason? When your mother raised her voice and lashed at you in anger? When your big brother broke your favorite toy? When you big sister stole your most favorite doll? How about when your teacher gave you a bad grade even though you studied so hard? When the captain of the cheerleader’s squad did not pick you, but instead selected your best friend because she was prettier than you? How about when you did not make the football team because you were not that athletic? When your boss promoted one of his buddies even though you were more qualified than him?

Let’s go even deeper, shall we? How about when you were invited to sleep over at your friend’s house then her big brother introduced you to the misery of sex, and stole your virginity? When you were bullied by a bigger guy just two blocks from school? When your uncle played nice with you, then, when nobody was home, molested you? How about when your father came home under the influence of alcohol and beat up your mother in front of you? When your parents split because your father cheated on your mother or vice versa? 

Should we go on reflecting upon some of the church related experiences? Remember when sister so and so or brother so and so did not treat you nicely? When you heard, via the grapevine, that brother X or sister Y spoke negatively about you? How about when the pastor ignored you and your family (over and over again) but showed multiple favors to a particular brother because he is among the bigger donors of the church? And on and on it goes. 

  

Do you mean to tell me that all of these and many other incidents did not affect you at all?

So, let me ask you again: “How are you?” Are all these little or big scars from the past completely resolved? Are the recent incidents completely resolved? We all know that people don’t bury their emotions dead; they bury them alive. And when we least expect it they show up in the present situation.


Note: To read the entire Teaching Letter download the file:


Emotions and Spiritual Growth 

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Platforms for Transformation

God revealed to Paul the Ultimate Intention—Fullness of Christ. He wrote about it in Ephesians. In this letter we can read:


“Until we all attain to the unity of the faith, and of the knowledge of the Son of God, to a mature man, to the measure of the stature which belongs to the fullness of Christ. . . . but speaking the truth in love, we are to grow up in all aspects into Him who is the head, even Christ.”

(Ephesians 4:13, 15)

The Map of Spiritual Growth and Transformation

The Holy Spirit inspired Paul to pray two powerful prayers, which are recorded in Ephesians 1:15–23, and 3:14–21. I highly encourage you to, prayerfully and meditatively, read these two passages.

The stages of Spiritual Transformation have been outlined by the Holy Spirit in these two prayers.